20 “Normal” Things Killing Your Masculinity
You might not even realize how these are harming you.
Modern life is full of influences, habits, and addictions that make you effeminate and weak without you even realizing. Here are 20 things that are seen as “normal” but are in reality very harmful to men.
Sad music: Everything that you consume has an effect on who you are, and music is no different. What do you think that blasting sad, depressing lyrics directly to your brain will do to your emotional strength?
Gossipping: Why are you, as a man, spending time and energy talking about other people’s dramas? This is even worse if it’s gossipping about celebrities who you don’t even know. You are not supposed to know that this actor broke up with his actress girlfriend . You are not a teenage girl.
Arrogance and pride: A real man needs humility to recognize his flaws and sinful nature, so that he can find salvation in Christ. Pride is a grave sin because pride blinds you to your own flaws and makes you idolize yourself, leading you to continued sin. Ask for humility daily.
Watching sports too much: It’s fine to watch a game here and there, and there’s nothing wrong with liking sports. But it’s usually the case that those that put too much focus on following sports teams end up using this as a form of escapism, instead of doing something in their own lives. Sports fans very often make idols out of athletes, teams, or championships. Your life cannot revolve around watching your team play.
Excessive blue light: Blue light harms your sleep and concentration and lowers your testosterone, damaging your overall health and vitality. Minimize the time you spend watching your phone and computer screens, get some natural sunlight and buy a pair of blue light blocking glasses.
Women chasing: Most young men make their whole lives about getting women. This distracts them from their goals and leads them down the degenerate path. Try instead to practice chastity and you’ll see how much more time you have for meaningful endeavors.
Romantic movies and TV shows: Listen to Khabib on this one.
Trash food: Terrible for your health and vitality, makes you tired and soft both physically and mentally.
Comfort: Masculinity is forged in discomfort. A boy stays a boy if he refuses to embrace and seek discomfort as an opportunity to become a man. Practice asceticism and self-restraint. Learn to give up things that you enjoy simply so you can practice being uncomfortable. I highly recommend you check out the Exodus 90 challenge for this purpose.
Mindless jobs: This might be a little controversial, but I do believe the jobs most men have nowadays are so incredibly purposeless that it’s difficult to feel like a man when the vast majority of your time is spent updating spreadsheets and creating presentations. Yes, having a job —any job— is a blessing. And yes, you should be productive and earn your living. But that doesn’t mean you should stop working towards building a professional life that is more meaningful. If you have a job that is repetitive, depressing and that you feel is killing your drive, start looking for alternatives. A dead-end is only a dead-end if you stop looking for a way out.
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